NICABM – How to Help Clients Develop Tolerance for Emotional Distress

NICABM – How to Help Clients Develop Tolerance for Emotional Distress

Emotional distress – it’s messy, it’s painful, even overwhelming. Most of us will do anything to just not feel it. But here’s the thing . . .

When a client can’t tolerate difficult emotions, it can cost them dearly.

It can trap them in fear and loneliness. It can wreak havoc on their most precious relationships. And it can lead them to “numb out” and try to escape the pain through substance abuse, binge-eating, excessive sleeping, and even self-harm.

Not only that, but when a crisis hits, the inability to tolerate painful emotions can send your client spiraling even further into avoidant behaviors that only ramp up their distress.

But how do you “sell” clients on the idea that usually, the way out of distress is through it?

And beyond that, how do you help them lean in to the experience of distress so they can learn to tolerate it – instead of relying on harmful coping strategies that only make their lives worse?

We turned to 21 of the world’s top experts to hear how they work with clients to help them develop greater distress tolerance. Here are their best strategies that you can start using with your clients today.

Expert Strategies to Help Clients Develop Tolerance for Emotional Distress

Understanding Difficult Emotions at the Level of the Nervous System

Christine Padesky, PhD   Deb Dana, LCSW  
Rick Hanson, PhD   Janina Fisher, PhD

• What’s Going On In the Nervous System When Your Client Seems Unable to Tolerate Distress
• Two Common Missteps in Working with Hypoarousal (and How to Avoid Them)

Expert Strategies to Help Clients Build Distress Tolerance in the Aftermath of Trauma

Christine Padesky, PhD   Ron Siegel, PsyD  
Janina Fisher, PhD   Laurel Parnell, PhD

• Three Priorities When Helping Traumatized Clients Learn to Tolerate Distress – and How to Achieve Them
• The Counterintuitive First Step to Building Distress Tolerance After Trauma
• Three Strategies to Help Your Client Regain a Sense of Control After Trauma

How to Help Clients Tolerate What Feels Intolerable (and Why This Critical Skill Is Key for Healing)

Peter Levine, PhD   Shelly Harrell, PhD   Kelly Wilson, PhD  
Christine Padesky, PhD   Ron Siegel, PsyD   Miguel Gallardo, PsyD  
Deany Laliotis, LICSW   Charles Ridley, PhD

• The Go-To Strategy Many Clients Use to Manage Distress (and What It’s Costing Them)
• Four Specific Factors That Can Transform Your Client’s Ability to Tolerate Distress
• A 2-Step Approach to Help Your Client Cultivate Resilience

How to “Sell” Clients on the Benefits of Tolerating Distress (When It’s the Last Thing They Want to Feel)

Shelly Harrell, PhD   Miguel Gallardo, PsyD  
Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT   Ron Siegel, PsyD   Christine Padesky, PhD

• The Four Specific Costs of Avoiding Distress
• One Idea That Can Challenge Your Client’s Impulse to Avoid Feeling Distress
• Key Questions to Help Clients Connect to a Different Future and Spur Life-Changing Action

How to Help Clients Recognize Whether They’re Experiencing Stress or Distress (and Why This Distinction Can Be So Important)

Kelly Wilson, PhD   Michael Yapko, PhD  
Rick Hanson, PhD   Joan Borysenko, PhD   Ron Siegel, PsyD

• What We Really Mean When We Talk About “Healthy Stress”
• Two Cognitive Skills That Can Be Critical for Building Distress Tolerance
• The Crucial Link Between Decision-Making and Distress Tolerance (and How to Frame It for Your Client)

How to Create a Personalized Plan to Boost Your Client’s Distress Tolerance Skills

Christopher Willard, PsyD   Zindel Segal, PhD   Shelly Harrell, PhD  
Ron Siegel, PsyD   Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT  
Christine Padesky, PhD   Rick Hanson, PhD

• One Way to Shift Your Client Out of a Hyper-Focus on Their Distress
• A 4-Step Exercise to Help Your Client Break Down Exactly What They’re Feeling When Distress Takes Over
• Specific Grounding and Anchoring Skills Clients Can Use to Pull Themselves Out of Emotional Distress
• Contraindications for Using Grounding Strategies

How to Grow Your Client’s Capacity to Manage Distress

Peter Levine, PhD   Joan Borysenko, PhD   Bonnie Goldstein, PhD

• Three “Containment” Exercises to Help Your Client Build Endurance in the Face of Distress
• How to Help Your Client Create Strategies They Can Use to Ease Distress (Even Outside of Sessions)
• Two Ways to Help Clients Develop Tools to Self-Regulate

How to Help Clients Co-Regulate to Dial Down Distress That’s Wreaking Havoc on Their Relationships

Ron Siegel, PsyD   Christine Padesky, PhD   Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

• How an Overreliance on This One Specific Habit Can Cause Relationship Problems
• A 3-Step Approach to Help Your Client Shift into Co-Regulation (and Why This Shift Is So Essential)
• Two Experiential Approaches to Help Couples Learn to Work Through Distress Together

Creative Interventions to Transform Your Client’s Ability to Tolerate Distress

Joan Borysenko, PhD   Christine Padesky, PhD  
Ron Siegel, PsyD   Lynn Lyons, LICSW

• An Incremental Approach to Help Clients Use Imagery to Relieve Distress
• One Powerful (But Often Overlooked) Resource That Can Boost Your Client’s Distress Tolerance Skills
• Two Ways to Help Your Client Recognize Their Distress Is Temporary (Even When It Might Not Feel That Way)

Here’s What You’ll Get:

Everything is yours to keep forever in your professional library

	Downloadable videos so you can watch at your convenience, on any device
	Audio recordings you can download and listen to at home, in the car, at the gym or wherever you like
	TalkBack Segments to distill key ideas (this is where we “land” the session)
	Next Week in Your Practice sessions to give you concrete strategies to use with clients
	Professionally-formatted transcripts of the sessions, to make review and action simple
	Five downloadable bonus videos to help clients develop tolerance for emotional distress

Starting Today, This Program Can Change the Way You Practice

. . . I feel so fortunate to have this access to brain power, experience and research synthesis . . .

“When I listen to the experts talk openly about their experience, I feel so fortunate to have this access to brain power, experience and research synthesis on cutting edge issues! I go back to the videos to reinforce things that will assist my clients.”

Mary Logan, Counselor
Ipswich, MA

I benefit, my practice benefits, and most important my clients benefit . . .

“I live in Nova Scotia and have limited travel funds at the university at which I work. The series provided by NICABM gives me the rare opportunity to listen to the leaders in the field. As a result, I learn valuable information that would not otherwise be available to me. I benefit, my practice benefits, and most important my clients benefit from the knowledge and wisdom I gain from the series.”

David Mensink, PhD Counseling Psychology, Psychologist
Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada

. . . some dare to go the extra journey to research and educate

“These NICABM series keep me afloat, in touch, on track, well trained in my field, and more personally healthy. The best aspect, though, is that I feel validated and comforted knowing that some dare to go the extra journey to research and educate, so I can walk the path to health, and can share with others.”

Mary Corsello-Vilcheck, LCSW
Midlothian, VA