NICABM – How To Work With Clients Who Blame

NICABM – How To Work With Clients Who Blame

Blame is a powerful emotion.

Problem is, blame’s power can also be addictive. When a client blames others, they often feel more certain in their belief or they feel more protected from painful emotions like shame.

But this protection comes with unintended consequences, because blame can push people out of the client’s life and poison so many of their intimate relationships.

So how do we help clients who struggle with blame?

We asked 22 world-renowned experts how they work with clients who blame. These are their top strategies.

How to Work with Clients who Blame

Module 1: The Neurobiology of Blame

The Neurobiology of Blame

Dan Siegel, MD     Shelly Harrell, PhD      Ron Siegel, PsyD
Rick Hanson, PhD      Kelly McGonigal, PhD

• Why we’re hardwired for fault-finding
• Two types of self-awareness that can foster blame
• The link between rumination and blame

How to Work with Blame When a Client Has a History of Trauma

Bessel van der Kolk, MD      Rick Hanson, PhD

•  How trauma can propel a client into patterns of blaming
• How to work with highly-sensitive blame triggers in clients who’ve experienced trauma

Module 2: How to Work with Clients Who Externalize Their Blame

The Missing Skill That Can Release a Client Frozen in Blame

Marsha Linehan, PhD      Michael Yapko, PhD      Rick Hanson, PhD
Kelly McGonigal, PhD      Ron Siegel, PsyD

• Two polar opposite ways a client often assesses blame (and why both lead to pain)
• Two rigid beliefs that can make a client highly prone to blaming others

How to Help Clients Move from Blame into Self-acceptance and Kindness

Ron Siegel, PsyD      Chris Germer, PhD

• The hidden issue often lying just beneath the client’s pain (and may be the key to successful treatment)
• How to help clients break a pain-blame loop

How the Loss of Mentalizing Fuels Blame

Peter Fonagy, PhD

• Why your client’s blame may be linked to a deficiency in their ability to mentalize
• The unique phenomenon that can heighten the intensity of a client feeling wronged

Module 3: How to Work with Blame That’s Protecting a Client From Shame

How to Work with Clients Who Fear Self-Blame

Richard Schwartz, PhD      Christine Padesky, PhD

• How to work with blame in clients who show signs of narcissism
• How to help clients whose externalized blame is protecting them from internalized blame
•  Why certain clients who blame will seek treatment only when they’re depressed

How to Reverse Black-and-White Thinking That Drives a Client’s Blame

Lynn Lyons, LICSW      Kelly McGonigal, PhD      Joan Borysenko, PhD

• How to adjust your language to reduce the potential for client defensiveness.
• The deep fear that keeps some clients from admitting fault in an issue

Module 4: Practical Strategies to Help Clients Break Blaming Patterns

How to Disrupt Blame in Rigid Thinkers

Terry Real MSW, LICSW      Ron Siegel, PsyD

• How to approach unfulfilled needs so clients don’t fall prey to blame
• How to work with clients whose blame is powered by issues of grandiosity

Helping Clients Avoid Blame Traps

Kelly McGonigal, PhD      Zindel Segal, PhD

• Specific questions that can help clients see the true costs of their blame
• Why the benefits of blaming others can be so addicting for some clients

Four Practical Skills to Spark Change in Others

Bill O’Hanlon, LMFT      Joan Borysenko, PhD

• One strategy that can radically shift a client’s use of fault-finding
• One change to a blame pattern that can be a turning point for clients with addiction disorders

Module 5: Blame and Relationships

How to Work with a Client Whose Blaming Poisons Their Intimate Relationships

Stan Tatkin, PsyD MFT      Ron Siegel, PsyD      Richard Schwartz, PhD

• The core deficit that could be fueling a couple’s blame dynamic
• The common blame formula that can foster victimhood (and how to undo it)
• How childhood vulnerabilities play a key role in a couples’ blame cycle

A Bottom-Up Approach to Restore a Relationship Shattered by Blame

Pat Ogden, PhD

• How to recognize the subtle pain signals that may be hiding behind a client’s blame
• How to disrupt a blaming pattern that’s keeping a relationship in pain

Module 6: How to Help Clients Shift from a Blaming Mindset to a Growth Mindset

Avoiding Common Missteps When Working with Blame

Shelly Harrell, PhD      Rick Hanson, PhD

• Why timing can affect a successful blame intervention
• Why disappointment may be the primary emotion that drives so much blame (and how to resolve it)

How to Prevent Resentment and Guide Clients to Growth

Michael Yapko, PhD

• Why some families can be particularly susceptible to a blaming relationship
• How to help clients connect blame to the way they approach expectations

Here’s What You’ll Get:

Everything is yours to keep forever in your professional library

	Downloadable videos so you can watch at your convenience, on any device
	Audio recordings you can download and listen to at home, in the car, at the gym or wherever you like
	Professionally-formatted transcripts of the sessions, to make review and action simple
	Three downloadable bonus videos to help you work more effectively with blame

Starting Today, This Program Can Change the Way You Practice

. . . I feel so fortunate to have this access to brain power, experience and research synthesis . . .

“When I listen to the experts talk openly about their experience, I feel so fortunate to have this access to brain power, experience and research synthesis on cutting edge issues! I go back to the videos to reinforce things that will assist my clients.”

Mary Logan, Counselor
Ipswich, MA

I benefit, my practice benefits, and most important my clients benefit . . .

“I live in Nova Scotia and have limited travel funds at the university at which I work. The series provided by NICABM gives me the rare opportunity to listen to the leaders in the field. As a result, I learn valuable information that would not otherwise be available to me. I benefit, my practice benefits, and most important my clients benefit from the knowledge and wisdom I gain from the series.”

David Mensink, PhD Counseling Psychology, Psychologist
Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada

 

 

. . . some dare to go the extra journey to research and educate

“These NICABM series keep me afloat, in touch, on track, well trained in my field, and more personally healthy. The best aspect, though, is that I feel validated and comforted knowing that some dare to go the extra journey to research and educate, so I can walk the path to health, and can share with others.”

Mary Corsello-Vilcheck, LCSW
Midlothian, VA

• The transcript makes it easy to go back and double check concepts, citations and names that are mentioned
• We put in a table of contents to make it easy for you to find the exact part of the webinar you need
• Having the concepts already written allows you to take notes on how you’re going to use the ideas rather than transcribing the ideas
• Some people simply learn better by reading than by listening or watching
• You will be able to print out and share techniques presented in the session with your patients